If gravity can affect/slow down/deflect light, why starlight and flashlight have the same speed?

Before a star dying to a black hole, does it has more mass? Why it is not black?

Put your hand on the wall and push it, it is instantly. Put your hand 0.0001 feet from the wall and push the wall, it is not instant. 

Does the sun ever stop attracting earth? When does it begin attracting earth? Forces are coexisting with matters, therefore instantaneous. 

Gravity propagates in space at light speed is a joke. LIGO detected gravitational waves from two black holes that merged from 1.3 billion years ago is a lie.